How to Talk About Unexpected Pregnancy with Family Over the Holidays

December 8, 2025

The holiday season is often a time for joy, connection, and sharing. But when you’re carrying unexpected news, such as a surprise pregnancy, you may feel unsure about how to bring it up with your family.

At Elevate Women’s Center, we understand how overwhelming this can feel, and we’re here to support you as you prepare for these conversations.

Preparing for the Conversation

Before speaking with your family, give yourself space to understand your own feelings. You may be experiencing a mix of emotions, and that’s completely normal. Taking time to process what you’re feeling can help you communicate more clearly and calmly.

Consider preparing by reflecting on a few questions:

• Who do I feel most comfortable telling first?
• How much am I ready to share?
• Which questions am I willing to answer, and which details are private?
• What reactions might I expect, and how can I handle them?

Reflecting on these points can help you feel more grounded and confident as you move into the conversation.

Choosing Your Moment and Setting

Holiday gatherings can be busy and full of activity, which may not provide the privacy you want.

Look for a quieter moment when you can speak one-on-one, perhaps during a walk, over coffee, or at the end of the evening. If finding privacy is difficult, it may be easier to talk before or after the holiday via a phone call or video chat. A calm environment can encourage a more supportive and thoughtful exchange.

Communicating with Empathy and Clarity

When you’re ready to share, begin with a gentle, honest statement such as, “I have something important to tell you, and I’d appreciate your understanding.” Be direct but calm as you explain that you’re pregnant and still processing the news yourself.

Allow space for your family to react, even if their responses are emotional or unexpected. Many reactions stem from concern or love, even if they don’t come out perfectly. Share only what you feel comfortable discussing. If you’ve already sought medical guidance, you can mention that briefly, but you are not obligated to provide details.

Seeking Support

Talking about an unexpected pregnancy during the holidays can feel intimidating, but you do not have to navigate it alone. Elevate Women’s Center offers free, confidential services, compassionate support, and accurate information to help you explore your next steps.

Schedule your appointment today. Your well-being is our priority.