An unplanned pregnancy can invite a lot of emotions into your mind, like fear, doubt, uncertainty, and so much more. Several factors can complicate this time, including outside pressure to abort and unanswered questions about your options.
First and foremost, this is your decision to make. No one has the right to force you to do something you don’t feel comfortable doing. Take a deep breath and remind yourself that you hold the power here.
Thinking About Your Relationship
Consider the relationship you have with your boyfriend. Do you feel loved, safe, and protected? If not, you’ll want to evaluate what is best for your safety. Abuse can come in many forms, including psychological. No one has the right to coerce or manipulate you.
If you feel you are in danger, don’t delay seeking help. You deserve peace and safety. Contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline for immediate help, information, and safety tips. You should consider reaching out to a trusted loved one or mental health professional for additional support.
If your relationship is not abusive, remember that the pregnancy news may have come as a shock to your boyfriend, and he might be processing big emotions. Give him the space to think about this news and remember he may need some time.
Learning Your Options: You Have Control
Remind yourself that you have agency over your life and the power to weigh your pregnancy options. If you feel comfortable doing so, invite your boyfriend to discuss your options. He may feel abortion is “the only way out.” The truth is that several options can provide peace of mind, including adoption and parenting.
While parenting can seem like a difficult endeavor, know that resources and support are available to you. Many parents experience doubt initially but learn that the journey can be rewarding and beautiful.
Adoption is rewarding for those who want to ensure the child is safe and cared for in a loving family. Nowadays, birth mothers can choose the adoptive family and form a relationship with the child. Or they can choose a more private route like closed adoption, which ensures their identifying information remains confidential.
Your local pregnancy center can provide no-cost pregnancy options information. Elevate Women’s Center offers this service to give you the confidential, trustworthy facts you need.
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